My definition, Inferiotiy Complex = The feeling of being intimidated.
Symptoms:
Very low self confidence
Poor communication skill
Never wants to be in the limelight
Reasons:
Lack of talent, knowledge, experience and more importantly - results/success
Peer/siblings pressure
Case examples:
2 friends that knew each other from school, being classmates, deskmates and eventually became best friends. If u look at the situation above, they became friends, initially was not by choice. But as time goes, they develop trust and fondness as they were going thru the same experience( being in the same class and all). In certain points of their friendship few tests and assessments came along. For instance, during exams, person A will always be on top of person B. B felt challenged and started to study hard to beat A. But, no matter how hard B studied or tried, B could never beat A. And to rub salt on the wound, A was not even trying and did not acknowledge the fierce competition from B. Slowly, B will develop the feeling of hopelessness and started to accept the fact that no matter what, he/she will still be inferior to A.
Well, thats life. And the situation above is not very strange to us isn't it? But what I wd like to lay out here is the impact of the situation above in general.
From being inferior, B tried to become superior in any opportunity that present itself. Every minute or insignificant details, B will try to boast up and try to downplay A. It can be as simple as, criticising A on the way A walks, looks and talks. It can be to a point where B will start to resort to lies just to impress and UP him/herself. They wd say that they just bought a half million house when in actual fact its just a 300K house. I dont need to elaborate, u got the idea.
To make matters worst, B will try to do this in front of other friends. By doing this, B will have some false sense of victory and satisfaction. There are so much negative that we can take from this, but one thing for sure, the relationship wont be the same.
So the point I want to make here, I blv, most of the ppl that have SUPERIORITY complex actually became like that bcos they felt INFERIOR initially.
Having said that, let me try to define superiority complex in my next update
3 comments:
uhhh... ada blog siut! anyway, mushkil la. nama manja u jabbeer ke? tak glamour nya.
btw, with regards to your theory on "up" ppl. i dont think it applies to inferior complex ppl je. some ppl brag coz they love the attention. agak waktu kecik, tak cukup kasih sayang kot. huhuhu..
Betul tu. I will try to eloberate your theory in my future post.
Its Jabir actually. How I got it? biasalah masa kot sekolah dulu budak2 suka main nama bapak. Look at my full name, u'll know what I mean. Anyway, school mates, college mates je yg panngil I Jabir. Tapi I rasa sebab I ni "alim" kot, mcm Jabir R.A, periwayat hadis tu...ha...ha...ha...
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